I often wonder why other moms aren't as open with their struggles and try to pretend that life is just so smooth. I can tell you that yesterday especially was a morning where I could have walked out of the house and let them fend for themselves. It wasn't really even them but my mood I am sure. I keep telling myself this is just a hard phase and honestly it has gotten easier in many ways. It is just so draining when you turn around and every wipe has been pulled out of the container and thrown on the floor, my hairbrush is in the toilet, Blake has a dirty diaper, and Caden has just gone pee pee all over the guest bathroom. I wonder is it that I have two active boys or is this normal?
Other mommy questions...
-Do other toddlers regress and want to be fed because they see a younger sibling being fed or because they don't feel they can do it?
-Should a 3 year old know how to dress himself? If so why does he resist it so?
- Is the best tactic in dealing with tantrums really just to walk away?
-Should I feel guilty about turning off the monitor?
We are all learning here and sometimes I am able to look back and laugh. Caden told me yesterday that I needed to go downstairs and clean the kitchen....he really didn't want me to see what he was about to get into.
My conclusion is that anyone that says this is an easy job either hasn't done it or isn't living in reality. I applaud all of you who have done it and have any sanity left.
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Lea, I am so with you. This week Conner had a cold and Jeff worked late everyday. I almost went off the deepend, but a new day came and everything was ok again, until Tanner pee-pee'd in his pants twice in 5 minutes today. and I think 3 year-olds can dress themselves but just choose not to because it is easier for us to just do it rather than help them learn how. Fimally Jeff is home so I can cook supper! yeah!
Thanks for understanding Cari. I am so glad to know I am not alone. It is a different world with two isn't it? Of course you were smarter and spread yours out a little more. I will enjoy following your blog!
Well, you've got more years of parental experience than I do, but I can offer you a pediatrician perspective (from listening to lots of parents!):
1. Yes they regress--especially in potty-training and feeding. I'm just hoping Will doesn't decide he wants to breastfeed again when this new baby arrives, because that will be awkward. :)
2. Toddlers just don't want to do what you want them to do, no matter what it is! (We have to make Will think everything is his idea lately.)
3. Yes
4. No! (We turned the monitor off on Will sometime around 10-11 months or so--I figured if he really had an issue, he could holler loud enough for me to hear.)
Anyway, I'm impressed with how well you're handling your 2 so close in age--not sure I'm going to do nearly as well this spring!!
Thanks Angie....why couldn't you find a ped position here in TN...I could use your advice a lot more. There are never ending questions and insecurities. I really appreciate your opinions. Miss you lots!
LOL! You're not the only one I PROMISE :) The boys are beautiful and obviously doing well if they are keeping you on your toes. So, you guys ready for #3?? :)
We are SOOOOO done LOL!!!
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